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How to Find a Fulfilling Career

I grew up in a small town in Louisiana with a population of 5,000. The majority of people were blue-collar workers, there were a couple of factories and there were a handful of very small businesses. My mom was a teacher and my dad was an attorney and politician. With only a few exceptions, every adult I knew talked about work like this:

  • “Work is work. Everyone’s gotta do it.”
  • “I’m exhausted from work. I just want to lay down.”
  • “Thank God it’s Friday.”
  • “It’s Sunday, I don’t want to go back to work tomorrow.”
  • “I NEED a break from work.”
  • “I hate my boss.”

Sound familiar to you? I’m sure it does. This is the status quo of “work” in our society. There are certainly people that love what they do, but that is not the norm.

How we got here is a really long story that I don’t even fully understand myself. It includes things like the fact that we tend to work longer hours because we live in a consumer-based society, where we’re constantly being marketed to every second of every single day, making us want more “stuff.” So we have to work more to buy more stuff. Then there is also the history and concept of factory work that has shaped so many industries: stand here on the assembly line and put this one part on this one machine. Don’t use your brain at all. Don’t make any decisions. Be a complete cog in this giant machine. 

I always assumed that when I grew up that’s how work would be for me too. I never even questioned it.

I had restaurant jobs in high school and college, and this reaffirmed how I thought work should be.

Then I found coaching. I started coaching CrossFit classes and I noticed that most of the time it didn’t feel like work at all. It felt like I was playing and experimenting and following my own curiosity. Then I became a strength and conditioning coach at universities, and I felt those same things again. I started to believe that if I could feel this so early in my career, then it must be possible for me to maintain and even expand upon it going forward.

Over the past six years, I’ve had a consistent 8–9/10 satisfaction in my career. The way that I’ve done it is that I follow my curiosity and do what feels fun and exciting to me until it doesn’t anymore, and then I move on. At this point, I’ve rewritten my story about what work is, and I can’t even imagine going back. 

These are some of the ideas that have helped guide me along the way, and if you desire more out of your career, then I hope they’ll help you too.

Before we get into those ideas, why even care about this in the first place?

Consider that there are 168 hours in a week. The average job is 40 hours per week or 24% of your week. That’s a quarter of your life. The only other thing you do for a quarter of your life is sleep. What you spend or invest your time on in your career will have a profound impact on your outlook on life in general and it will shape you in so many ways. It’s imperative to pick something that you enjoy or at the very least don’t dislike. You may never be able to avoid some amount of mundane or boring tasks, but it is possible to do something that brings you joy and satisfaction.

Succumbing to the status quo could lead you to become bored or apathetic (or maybe you feel that way already). It can keep you from being present with those that matter most. It can zap your energy so you don’t even do the things that you love to do when you’re not working. 

Now, how to actually get what you want out of your career.

I believe that one of the fundamental ways to get what you want out of your career is to, first and foremost, NOT put too much pressure on it to completely fulfill you in life.

It’s a little like a romantic relationship. If we don’t have friends outside of our intimate relationship, if we don’t have hobbies and other interests, if we don’t know how to take care of our own mental health, then we will undoubtedly put too much strain on our partner, expecting them to be all things at all times to us. I’ve never seen this workout. 

If we expect our careers to completely fulfill us and be the sole reason we feel we have a meaningful life, we could be setting ourselves up for failure.

Here’s an analogy that I’ve heard a dozen times: It’s like building a house on a single pillar. It will stand as long as that one pillar is intact. As soon as that one pillar starts malfunctioning, the house collapses. So it’s better to build a house with many pillars so even if one becomes rotten and you have to replace it, the house doesn’t come crashing down in the meantime.

If you make your career your only pillar then you are very vulnerable in life. If your career doesn’t go the way you want, your entire life isn’t going the way you want. You may also put unrealistic expectations on your career to make you happy in and of itself. Don’t do that. Have more pillars. Invest in your health and relationships and explore different interests.

What we all want.

This completely changed the way I thought about my career.

In his book Drive, Daniel Pink describes the three fundamental human motivations in their careers. The three things, he says, that we all want. 

The first is autonomy. We want to do things the way we want to do them. Sure, we can be good teammates when we need to be, but we don’t want to have orders barked at us or be micromanaged. Long gone are the days where we’d sign up to work in a corporate setting where we clock in, follow a set script, and clock out, like a cog in a machine. We want the freedom to create something new, to use our full skill set, and have the freedom to think outside the box.

The second is the ability to strive for mastery. We want to grow and learn and deeply understand things. We are innately curious, and learning new skills and building new capabilities is one of the most energizing things to us. It’s what keeps us feeling young. It’s what makes life exciting. Without it we feel complacent, we literally feel older. Over time if we aren’t challenged or given opportunities to strive for mastery we may even feel like we’ve LOST our curiosity and youthful nature forever. In my experience, there is no way to kill that part of us off. It may lay dormant after years of neglect, but as soon as we get the opportunity to strive and learn again, it can awaken like a giant.

The third is that our careers MUST give us a sense of purpose. With meaning. It’s almost a cliché at this point, but it’s becoming crystal clear—we deeply desire to do meaningful work. We’re not satisfied with being a cog in a machine. We want, at the end of the day, to feel like we’re improving the lives of human beings in some way. Some people do that by building software that saves people time and allows them to spend more time with loved ones, some people do that by teaching and investing in young people, and a growing number of people are doing that by helping people take control over their own health and their own bodies.

How to narrow it down and figure out what you want to be when you grow up.

So, how do you know specifically what YOU want to do? What you want to BE when you grow up?

One thing that really helps is identifying your Unique Genius. This is a term I learned from one of the top business coaches in the world, Dan Sullivan. 

Your Unique Genius has the following characteristics:

  • You feel energized by it and feel like you could do it all day.
  • Others have most likely praised you for this quality or attribute in the past, maybe your entire life.
  • It’s something you would do even if you weren’t paid to do it. 

Your Unique Genius will also likely translate to what you will be compensated the most for because it’s the thing that you are likely to reach the highest level of proficiency in.

For instance, one of my Unique Geniuses is being a “guide.” I know this because I’ve been told my entire life that I am a leader and that people naturally follow me. I’ve been told I am a safe person to talk to and that people really value my opinion. I know this because I love to mentor others. I know this because those closest to me say that this is one of my greatest strengths. 

Some questions to help you identify your Unique Genius: 

  1. What activities do you feel like you could do all day that might generate income?
  2. What do YOU think you are best at?
  3. What have others told you you are great at?
    • If you don’t know, then try asking three to five of the closest people to you what your biggest strengths are.

Once you have the answers to those three questions, you can triangulate to find one or two things they all have in common.

There are a couple of things to watch out for here:

  • Mistaking the thing that you get the most validation for being your Unique Genius if it’s not something you actually love to do.

    Years ago I was a strength and conditioning coach and I created terrific training programs for my athletes. The coaches loved them, the athletes loved them and the athletes typically got great results. I was also quickly being recognized as a bright up-and-coming coach by my peers. I got a ton of praise and validation for that skill set.

    I think that is where most people would stop. Most people would mistake validation from others as proof that that’s what they should be doing. The problem was that after a few years of this I started to hate creating training programs. Once I was clear about that I pretty quickly transitioned to my first leadership position in business and focused solely on business strategy and my team. I still hadn’t found my true calling in life, but I had taken a massive step in the right direction.

    Your Unique Genius is something that you LOVE doing and look forward to mastering. No matter how much praise you get from others, if you don’t absolutely love it then you haven’t yet found your Unique Genius.

  • Focusing on what will make you the most money or get you the most recognition.

    Money and recognition can easily cloud our judgment about what is best for us. Society would have us believe that the more you have of both, the more successful you are. That does not align with my definition of success, and I doubt it will yours if you really think about it. I measure success by some of the following metrics:
  • Internal peace
  • The quality of my relationships
  • Freedom of time, place, and self-expression
  • Health
  • Sense of adventure

If you had money and recognition but none of the rest, would you consider yourself successful? What if you had all of those but very little money and no recognition? 

Luckily you don’t have to forego either entirely, but according to most major world philosophies and religions, striving for money or fame at the expense of those other things usually leads to turmoil.

What makes the most sense is to come up with your own definition of success and make sure that the career you choose aligns with that definition. Let money and recognition be a by-product of doing work that you love rather than ends in and of themselves.

How to get past the fear and take the leap.

Now, once you’ve identified your Unique Genius, how do you turn that into a career? For instance, one of mine is guiding. While that is essential to know, it doesn’t exactly narrow down what I should be doing with my life. 

Here are some things to think about that can help you narrow it down:

  • Run experiments.
    I don’t know if it’s possible to really know what you love doing without running a series of experiments—having a variety of different jobs and projects. Only then can you figure out things that you like and dislike. Many things sound great in theory but are much different on the job. I recommend setting up short-term experiments to test drive different things. 
  • Do it as a side hustle.
    The older you get, the more responsibilities you have, the more bills you have to pay, the more daunting it can seem to try something new. When you’re running your experiments, don’t think about it like a career change (unless you feel inspired to do so). Think of it as a side hustle. It’s something you can do on the side, on top of what is already paying your bills. If you end up hating it, then you can quit and you can still pay rent. If you love it, then just keep doing it until you’re generating enough income to replace your current job.
  • Try the fear-setting exercise.
    Tim Ferris introduced me to this exercise years ago when I was considering going full time into my first online business. He did a TED talk on it here, and the full article is here. It is a seven-step process that can help you overcome the fear of taking the next step.

Lastly, human beings are ever-evolving and what works for us today may not work for us in a few years. In fact, these days people will have over 11 jobs in their career on average. No matter how much you enjoy what you’re currently doing, regularly ask yourself if this is your highest calling. Ask yourself if there is something else that you’d love to be doing EVEN more. Something that would allow you to have an even greater impact.

If you operate like this in your career you will almost certainly become materially successful. You will be fully engaged, moving toward, and maybe even achieving mastery in a discipline. Beware that you don’t fall into a “success trap” (also known as golden handcuffs), which is the hardest trap to get out of. A success trap happens when you stop loving doing what got you successful in the first place, and you feel like you can’t quit because of that success. You are afraid to try something new because you may lose the money, recognition, and identity that come with being so successful.

As you identify your unique genius and strategically move toward only doing work within that genius, you can expect your work to not really feel like work much of the time. Instead, it will feel like you are doing something you are passionate about and you are scratching your own itch of curiosity. You will naturally become very proficient at what you do because you love it. Opportunities will open up all over the place for you and you will be sought after for the skills you’ve developed.

If you are passionate about nutrition and fitness and you think your Unique Genius may be in coaching, then you may be interested in the WAG Nutrition Coach Certification.

Being an online nutrition coach gives you the autonomy to work with WHO you want, HOW you want. It gives you the freedom to work any time and from anywhere.

It provides you the opportunity to strive for mastery and gives you a cornucopia of fields to study and learn, like nutrition science, the psychology of eating, behavior change, and more. 

And most importantly, it not only makes you feel like you’re doing something meaningful, the work actually IS meaningful. Some of our clients have lost hundreds of pounds and added 10 years back to their lives. Some have saved their marriages as a result of working with us. People’s confidence and self-esteem can go up, along with their overall sense of well-being.

Growing up, anytime I heard someone ask, “How’s work?” the person on the other end, almost without fail, would say “Busy” or “It’s work.” Not very inspiring. What I internalized is that work wasn’t supposed to be something we love or find passion in. It was supposed to be something you do to pay the bills. It would probably be pretty boring or, worse, it would be miserable. But that’s just how it was. You sucked it up. 

I had no idea how wrong I was. Not only can we do something that we’re deeply passionate about, but with the rise of the digital age AND people’s interest in fitness and nutrition, online nutrition coaching can become a lucrative business or side hustle.

If you’re interested in learning more about becoming an online nutrition coach, check out this FREE training course we created. The course is made up of three educational videos that will teach you how to actually get clients massive results, how to attract and find your first clients, and so much more. Again, it’s completely free with no strings attached.

In the series you’ll hear my wife, Adee, talk about the three human drivers just like I did at the beginning of this article. After that, it’s all original content. 

Check it out here.

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